Student Life

The "In" Crowd

Brandon Huffman

February 19, 2013

The "In" Crowd
When you think about the “popular” crowd, is there ever a part of you that wishes that you could be part of that group?
We all know the group of people in our high school that everyone knows. Come on, don’t deny it. They are the select few that everyone turns to gaze at, if only slightly. So many of you would like to be friends with them or even become them, but stop and think about it: Is it really worth it? When you think about the potential homecoming king and queen, and the "popular" crowd, is there ever a part of you that wishes that you could be part of that group?
If not, great, you’re a strong individual who is extremely comfortable with yourself and you don’t care about what other people think of you. However, if you’re somebody who would like to become popular, or known by everyone, I just ask you to ask yourself again: Is it really worth it? If you’re somebody who is very easy to get along with and everybody likes naturally, that’s fantastic. If you’re not, though, you might consider acting a certain way around certain people, changing your appearance, or even participating in a few activities you wouldn’t normally in order to fit in better. This isn’t always a bad thing, but there is one thing to think about. You are the only person like you in the world. No one else in the history of this planet is you and no one else after you’re gone will ever be you. So is it really worth it, even spending one day trying to be someone you’re not for others?
If other people don’t like you or don’t want to hang around with you because you’re different or weird, so what? You don’t need to get along with everybody in the world, and the truth is that you’re never going to. Trust me– I know. I work with the public and I know VERY well that there are some people that are impossible to get along with, that you will fight with and who will dislike you for no reason.
It’s part of life, and letting that getting under your skin is a waste of your time and energy. Those emotions that you are wasting trying to please others and make them like you could be used in another way: bettering yourself. You could be working on a hobby or job that you love and further developing your talents. You will always find friends; after all there are seven billion people in the world. It’s not that difficult to find a handful of friends. Besides, if you are yourself and never change who you are for others, you are much more likely to find friends that will be real and 100 percent there for you. In terms of romantic relationships, there is someone for everyone who is single out there. Though you may want a girlfriend or boyfriend desperately, wait for someone who is similar to you and will love you for who you are, it will be so much more worth it in the end. These are just a few reasons why it’s necessary to live life for yourself and not for making others like you. Honestly, being in the popular crowd or "in" crowd, is not always the best thing. In fact, the best thing you can do is be yourself and be in the "you" crowd, the people who care about you and not who you’re pretending to be. Popularity, in the long run, will not get you even one-tenth as far as individuality.

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