1. You’re passive aggressive.This consists of you pretending things don’t annoy you and making irritating side comments anyway. Notes and email also fall under this category – you live with this person, so it’s not inconvenient to sit down and have a face-to-face conversation. Note: this never works and you will likely just end up harboring resentment towards the other person, not to mention, annoy them.
2. It’s your way or the highway.Keep in mind; you are living with another person, so it simply cannot be your way or the highway. A lot of annoyances can be minor so, before you create a huge rift, consider if it’s something you really need to confront or if it’s something you can learn to live with.
3. Chores? Get real - I’m not even dirty!You have to pitch in. Sorry, but that’s life. Also, everyone makes messes. It’s simply impossible that you’re the only human being exempt from the dirtiness that comes with living. Perhaps you’re not messy – but pitching in with general maintenance cleaning is a necessity.
4. I’m messy – so what?Look around the room or think about your place. Are there five or more items randomly out of place, strewn about or on the floor? Yep, you’re a pig. That’s OK, though! You know it now and realizing you're messy is the first step on the road to roommate rehabilitation. Consider your roommate’s feelings – living with people isn't easy and nobody wants to be a roommate’s maid or nagging their roommate to pick up their stuff.
5. I’m the cleanest, tidiest person EVER and that’s the way it should be.You’re anal retentive. Good for you. That doesn't mean your roommate should be expected to follow your standards of neat-as-a-pin living. When you live with others, you have to deal with some of the messes that come from daily life. As long as your roommate cleans up after themselves, you’ve got nothing to complain about - even if the place doesn't look like a showroom. Yes, it’s hard to grasp that your roommate - and most people in the world - are okay with that standard, but the sooner you understand that, the better.
6. I like to share stuff – as long as it’s not mine.Sharing stuff is great, but you’ve got to remember that it’s a two-way street. It’s not fair to deem “communal items” that just-so-happen to be your roommates', but yours are off limits. Seriously, don’t you remember the “sharing” lessons from kindergarten? Sharing should be positive – for everyone. If you have items you don’t want to share, that’s perfectly acceptable. Just don’t expect your roommate to share everything, when you don’t share anything. The best way to deal with this is to designate what’s communal and what’s off-limits for all parties involved. That way, nobody gets the short end of the stick when it comes to sharing.
How to Become a Good Roommate
If any of the above applied to you - don't worry! You can be rehabilitated. The first step is admitting you need to change. Being a good roommate boils down to three pretty basic concepts: respect, consideration and communication.