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stuck on one guy this has never happend
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Posted 3 months ago so its my junior year and i think i had found the right guy for me. im not like the usual girl either i was single for two years the thought of love scares the crap out of me im not looking for love and i rarely talk to guys because they play so many games. im not bad looking or a lesbian lol but i just dont have time. wellllll i met this boy and he was amazing he was seriously perfect we hit it off, he understands me, never pressured me for sex, jsut great. i was so excited and i was feeling crazy about him then of course BAMMM! the bad news comes and hes moving back home and he wasnt supposed to and we know its best to break up. i understand the logic behind it but im so sad still. i cry all the time i miss him so much and i get so mad at him for acting like he doesnt care and ive said some awful things to him but i just want him to care. i want him to want to be with me how i want to be with him. i want him to just be my friend, and the thing is hes not a jerk by any means he doesnt want me to stay stuck on him and wait for him bc hes probly not coming back and doesnt want to keep me stuck which i respect but it still hurts, so bad. why would he get with me and let me get close to him if he was gonna leave? why can he just not be my friend? im honestly kind of mad at god about this because ive never let a guy in and when i do he takes him away. i try to replace him with other guys and it doesnt work then i jut feel like crap idk how to deal with it so i just need some help.
thanks breezy! |
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| Posted 3 months ago i think you should try harder to get him back and try to make him understand where you want to be in the relationship |
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| Posted 3 months ago ive tried and like hes moving. idk he doesnt talk to me. i just have to get over it. |
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| Posted 3 months ago I know that this will sound harsh but move on. Believe me I know. I just wanted to be friends with my ex and when I started dating someone else ( who i have been with for over a year now) we becam friends again. He has a girlfriend but we still talk and all four of us hangout together. I still feel something for him but I moved on and so did he and now we are friends. You just have to move on.
Sorry if I sound mean...I'm not trying to be. |
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| Posted 3 months ago I may sound mean but if you want him back really then go for it but if not then move on. Life goes on. I had the same problem and I got screwed over. I learned not to show emotions either. |
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| Posted 3 months ago its ok it happened to me b4 it takes awhile but time can heal anything!!! |
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| Posted 3 months ago hey breezyayy24, you know wat...this is crazy bc i was just recently going thru the same thing..i'd cry and all that only difference was that lack of communication never really let us get in a relationship, we both did confess that we have feelings and like each other ALOT! but idk wat happend and now i havent talked to him in forever..Id ask God too why is it me that has to go thru this you know, crazy thing is that despite the fact that we didnt communicate a lot i still had a butt load of feelings for this guy idk why..i didnt he was still feeling me or not, but i always felt for him and wanted him to be happy.. idk why......................but eventually you know wat happened...the feelings begin to fade.. ofcourse if at this moment i start talking to him..id fall for him once again..but actually ive learnt that dont stress over guys...let them go..if they come back they are urs forever if they dont, it was never meant to be....every single person on this earth has a life partner out there...God has made that special somone for everyone...give it some time...be happy with ur life and move on you know and in no time..ur guy will be there..ur past one or a new one...u never no wat surprise lifes holds for ya :) |
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| Posted 2 months ago i also am in this kind of situation to but we actually tried since the beginning to make it work even though there was distance. first we talked by phone and text but since we are both really busy that wasnt very effective cuz i had to get up early every morning to go to school and i couldnt stay up late talking and she could only talk late cuz she was busy all day. idk what you mean exactly by lack of communication and how far he moved away but there are alot of ways to communicate one that i find effective in my relationship is writing letters. since we cant talk much everytime i wish i could talk to her i just write it down like if i was talking to her and after about a week or longer of writing i send it to her and she writes back too. these letters help cuz you can keep them forever and whenever you feel down just read one. lol and letters are better when it comes to timing. if you think this is the guy and he thinks you are the one then you should both try hard to make it work and if it doesnt then at least you wont wonder for the rest of your life what might have happend. ive been with her since she moved for over a year now and i still love her just as much. idk if this helps you but if it does let me know. lol ill be glad to tell you more if you want it. and another thing i wanted to add is that you shouldnt question god he always knows what he is doing and if you have read the bible you will see that god takes away the best things from the people he loves the most and this is because he doesnt want us to think it was us who got the perfect girl or guy in your case but that he gave it to us. this happend to abraham who is the father of faith idk if you know his story but he was like 90 something and he had no kids or anything in life so he prayed to god for a son and even though he was too old and his wife couldnt have a child anymore god gave him a son. issac, then when issac was older, of course abraham was in love with him, its his son, god told abraham to go up to the mountain and offer his son up to him by killing him. abraham had faith that god is always right and knew what was best for him so he did what god told him but hesitantly and right before he was about to kill him an angel grabbed abrahams arm before he could kill his son and god told abraham that he has proven himself to god and let his son live. idk how religious you are but i am pretty religious but dont let this discourage you from taking my advise because i am real. i dont believe in god because my parents told me to but because i actually had various experiences showing me god exists. i used to do really bad things that i cant even say but this made me see that god really exists. the story of abraham i gave you is very broad to the actual story but if you wanna read it its somewhere is the book of genesis, the first book in the bible. if you're not that religious forgive me if i bothered you but i believe that i must never be afraid to talk about god because idk whose life i could be saying and trust me talking about god is pretty scary because of all the hostilities in the world. if you want to know more about this too then i will write more if you ask me to. |
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| Posted 2 months ago Move on. It will take some time, but what kind of relationship like this dosn't take time? Time heals all wounds. Maybe just think about all the bad things about him, and if he wants you to move on then do it. It seems kinda rude to me that he would say that, but I understand it too. God will give you another guy and he will be even better than this one. I once wanted to date this one guy soooo bad. And it took me monthsss and months to get over it. And now that I have a new boyfriend, I am so glad that God saved me the one I'm with now. You'll find someone new and better. Just for now distract your mind and focus on school, you got by good before you knew him, and you will get by now without him too. I'm glad he didn't pressure you for sex, because now it seems like such a huge thing that everyones into. Protect yourself. :) Hope you find a good man soon. beware of all those other playersss out there. Kepp your heart safe!! |
