I don’t think anyone would consider you as being pathetic. I, however, am wondering about your next step as I’m sure you’re doing so also. Taking into account that you have a baby and it is no longer you alone who is having to put up with your boyfriend/ baby’s father issue of wanting to live the bachelor life your baby is now having to put up with it also. You have to ask yourself it is o.k. that your baby has to put up with it? Do you want your baby to put up with it? I’m sure your answer is no because after all it’s bad enough you unwillingly have too.

There are a lot of girls going through the same issue you are right now. The only difference between any of you is your decision to move on for a better life, or continue to experience the dilemma you are in now.

Change is an inevitable thing. Plenty of people continue to experience heartache because they’re in this fight to keep things from changing. When in reality there is nothing anyone can do to stop change.

The only thing you can do make sure when things do change you and your baby are on the right side of it.

I wish you and your baby the best of luck.

Meagan Bre.

I would not say that you are pathetic at all, but instead a victim to man's oldest trick: "I want to commit, but not too much." By allowing him to be half-commited, you are showing everyone else that you are willing to be cheated on and lied to. Is that what you are trying to convey? I hope not, for your sake. If you do not want to be seen as the "easy" girl, then pull the plug.

By letting him go, you get to see if he was really worth holding onto. If he gets angry at you for no longer being his girlfriend, then you are better off without him, and you deserve someone so much better. If he still sees you as his friend, but keeps on with his immature behavior, then you're better off. But, if he is devastated and tries harder to get you back (like by asking you "What did I do wrong?" Anything that doesn't go along those lines should be seen as him being a baby.), then he is actually worth it.

At this point, though, you need to tell him what you think of his behavior. Or, better yet, you tell him just as you let him go. If he doesn't change, then move on, and be the better and more mature person for it.

I have been in a similar situation, but I've been the child in this kind of thing. My biological father couldn't take the commitment of a child, and so my mother divorced him. She moved on and married someone who deserved her and me. If you want your child to reflect back on you with a my-mom-is-so-cool feeling, then you should really take this step.