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HELP!!
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Posted 23 days ago I am having a hard time right now knowing that I am pregnant & I am only 17. The father has been there through everythimg until he go a basketball schloarship and says now he is to busy to help . I cant tell you how many times i have cried over this boy I love him so much that we got each others names tatooed on us( BIG MISTAKE).. I just want him back in me and in my childs life. what should i do??? |
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| Posted 21 days ago I'm sorry that I can't be of more help than this. I don't know either you or the boy, but it sounds from your post that he's sincere. You said that he "has been there through everything" until his scholarship. Possibly, he just wants to provide the best home for you. In order to do that, he needs a good career. So, his lack of visiting you might be his own personal sacrifice for a better future. I honestly hope that this is the case. I suggest that you talk with your parents,or a church leader. They might be able to give you comfort. You should talk with the boy. Soon. If he makes the wrong choice, then do this: rearrange your room. A friend once told me that reorganizing your room (moving your bed, drawers) helps relieve the stress. I'm sorry that I can't be of more help... |
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| Posted 19 days ago You can't let someone do something they don't want to do.I don't want to sound mean or anything by that.Oneday your babies daddy will be sitting there and realize what he did and come back to try and fix it or he might be trying to do the best for you and the baby by going to school. Now as for you you need to give that baby all the love in the world because it doesn't alway take two to raise a kid just one with the love of three people.I hope that it all works out in your favor. Email me at yahoo.com">firebird127@yahoo.com if you would like to talk more indepth. |
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| Posted 18 days ago speaking only the truth. you cant force someone to be in your life that doesnt want to. only thing you can do is life your life for ya baby. dont worry bout the baby fathers, hes goona wish he waS there one day. maybe you will let him back....maybe you wont. the choice is yours |
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| Posted 18 days ago When was the last time you talked to him? Have you asked him why he chooses the scholarship over you?Is he really choosing it over you or is he just being responsible? Ask his purpose for taking the basketball scholarship. Maybe he is trying to move forward for you and your baby. He may want to be responsible so that he could make money someday to support you all. It is important to talk with him and discuss your future. Since you got pregnant together means you have to make decisions together. Support him, but let him know that he is legally required to help you take care of the baby and that you really love him. Let him know that his love and support is more important and that he could NEVER be too busy for that. Don't assume that he wants nothing to do with your life unless he actually says that. Part of raising a baby is knowing how to raise it partially by yourself. You cannot always be together, there are times you must be apart. It may be a good thing that he got a scholarship. He wants to make something of his life. Rasiing a baby is hard, but understand you are still young and still need to set goals in order to have a future that is able to support not only yourself but your baby as well.
I feel for you girl, I really do. Let me know what happens please. I wish you best of luck.
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| Posted 18 days ago dont sound right when u say u want him back in u plus u were pregnant at 17 soo ur screwed kinda |
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| Posted 16 days ago dvandewarker.... i think that was kind of rude of whud u said i have seen plenty of ppl make it |
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| Posted 16 days ago remember that your life is just begining. take care of yourself and your unborn baby. Most states will pay for most of your daycare costs if you are working and/ or in school. Continue your education. go to college. it will be hard but it will be the best thing you can do to support your baby-on-the-way. Try not to let this issue with the boy stress you out because if it is meant to be it will happen. When you look at your baby for the first time he/she will be the love of your life. you will love that baby more than any boy...i know that from experience. i have two children (boy 3 yrs,girl 1 month) and i just finished my associates degree. Always know that you can accomplish anything you set your heart and mind to! I do hope things work out with the boy. the scholarship is a blessing. Think of it this way: at least one of you will need a good job and a scholarship will make it easier for him to get a college education |
