Okay , im 17 years old .. && im pregnant ! im going thru so much right now ! im pregnant from my ex-boyfriend ,&& he's beggin me to get n abortion ! he has a girlfriend && she's tellin ppl im trying hard to break their happy home ! but thats far from the case .

i dont need this boy , the baby do . .all i did was tell him what he needed to know && from then he treated me like crap ,i dont believe in abortions && now my fetas heart is beating &&it'l destroy me to know that its gettin thrown away

{Btw}its a very big sin ! could somebody please tell me how can i make it now , i live in fort.lauderdale

if yu may kno any hiring jobs please let me know ! && my ex told me dont have no words for him,cause he has none or me

do yu think god will punish him?

Don't punish that baby..Maybe the sex was a mistake but God brought that baby in your life for a reason. No one should be able to influence your decision on murder. I'm not being judgemental but I'm telling you my honest opinion. It's going to be really tough but you can even put it up for adoption.  You have many options but abortion should not be one of them. Don't take his breath away

Please contact TeenLine with your question.  They have teen counselors that can help you.  www.teenlineonline.org/  ; (310) 855-HOPE (4673)   

It's totally confidential.  They also have live chat, if you can't make a long distance phone call.  They won't pressure you to make any decision that is uncomfortable to you.

Best of luck.

Shannon S.

my opinion is DON't GET AN ABORTION!!!! the baby has no fault in wht we do.. we all make wrong choices, and regret it sometimes.. but sometimes we have to grow up and take responsibilities for our acts.. as for your ex dnt let him tell you whats best.. he is jst tellin you to have an abortion because he is only thinking bout whts best for him. but you are the one tht will have to regret it for the rest of your life.. if you really want tht baby have it!! im sure it will bring you many smiles.. and he will be so proud of you knowin he had someone tht knew he had to get a chance in this world.. as for his father he is going to have no respect for him.. jst do the right thing..

Hey,

My name is Malinda and I am 19 years old. I have three little sisters and two brothers whom I love dearly. All of my sisters are from my mother and another man. Malissa, the one closest to my age is 15 and nobody in our family has anything to do with her father. Here is the reason why...

When my mom became pregnant with her she was not married, she was in her early twenties, and the father did not want a child. One morning my mom woke up after telling him about my sister and there was a blank check with a note sitting on her bedside table from him. Needless to say the note was from him telling my mom he didn't want anyhting to do with her or her baby and the check was to pay for the abortion. My sister is the strongest most kind hearted little 15 year old you will ever meet. I don't know what I would do without her.

I do not think abortions are right, but in the Bible it says that all sins are equal and that God loves to forgive. You are very young and you have a lot of growing up and learning to do. I am praying for you in your decision on this matter. Either way I believe you will need the Lord's help and I suggest you learn from this and make the best of it no matter which decision you deside to make, and with or without that young boys help.

Love in The Lord,

Malinda

Collegegirl2012

Many  posters have given you their own opinions that suit them and their belief systems, but do not necessarially fit your needs.  Go to a legitimate counseling site where you will not be pressured to do anything that does not fit your needs.   I highly recommend www.teenlineonline.org.  They hear stories like yours everyday.  They will not judge you.  They will listen to you and make sure that you get the information, resources, and help that you need to make the decisions that you will need to make in the next months.  They have chat lines and forums too.

I truely wish you the best of luck.

Shannon

Take it from someone who's been there- it is not wrong to abort a fetus if you are not ready to have kids. Don't let all of these over-controlling nosy people tell you that you are a bad person either. You need to think about the consequences of having a baby at your age. If you want to go to college and not have to worry about a-how you're going to feed your kid- b child support fights- c- having to work and take care of a baby you aren't ready for and study- be smart and ignore society. I would have never gotten through school if I'd had mine. And besides, if your gut is telling you to abort it, it's for a reason. Mine did and guess what? Turned out the guy I was dating molested a 12 year old girl AFTER I'd aborted. Listen to yourself AND your boyfriend. Neither one of you are ready for kids- that's obvious, and you need to start being smart about it instead of listening to nosy, over-controlling not-having-anything-better-to-do-with-their-time than to come down on you for living your life YOUR way- people telling you that you're bad for it. You're not. So do what you think is right and consider that God might be telling you to wait for kids. He told me!

I can understand why "artnaturale" is so sure abortion is not wrong, having had one herself.  However-- ask yourself if this is right:

The abortionist first punctures the placenta with the suction tube, then proceeds to connect that same suction tube to the body of the baby, exerting extreme force on his delicate body.  Soon, the suction begins to tear him apart: skin, fingers, feet, legs, tiny intestines and lungs, eventually leaving only the head to float freely in the womb.  At that point, the abortionist inserts the forceps into the womb, grasps the head, and crushes the tiny scull, allowing the head to be removed as well.   

-You may accuse me of hyper sensitizing this- but before you do- let me remind you that this is exactly what happens.  We try to close our eyes to it because we can't see it, but now with new imaging technology, we do not even have that.

-dear girl, this is not a question of what is the best thing for you, this is a question of what is right.  Is murder right? Is murder of someone who is an inconvenience, a mistake, right? If you are not ready to rase a child, and as a single mother, I would agree that you are not, chose adoption.  There are hundreds of couples desperate for your precious baby.  Stand for what is right, for you and for your baby.  Chose adoption. Chose life.

You should do what is right for you. You are the one that will have to live with the decision you make for the rest of your life no matter what choice you make. Think it through and get legitimate realiable information about all three choices. If you feel that abortion is right for you at this point in your life you shouldn't let anyone else prevent you from making that decision, but you shouldn't have an abortion just because your ex thinks it's the right decision. Don't question what others think is right morally, just do what is best for you. Good luck.

narniabookworm says ...

First- a response to Ashley-

there are many children who grow up just fine with a single mother-- not the best, but there is no life sentence on the child.  Also, what is done is done. There is no need to bring up the past, slamming it in this girl's face.

However-

To Samantha- are you saying that if I feel murder is right for me it is okay for me to kill you? Are you saying that if theft is right for me, I have the right to steal from you?  This is not a matter of "what is right for you". This is a matter of what is right.  We both agree, (I hope) that murder is wrong REGARDLESS of what I feel is right for me--- same for theft.  The question is-- is this murder?  And if you are not sure if this is, shouldn't the innocent child be given the same benefit of the doubt a prisoner in death row has?  Don't we have to prove "without a shadow of a reasonable doubt" that this child is not alive?

I'm not saying that I agree with abortion. No one hows she feels or what she is going through at this time. I don't believe that anyone can say what is right or wrong or what they would do in this situation if they have never been there before. What is right for someone may not be what is right for someone else. I'm just saying she should do what she thinks is the best for her. She has to live with her decision, no one else does.

narniabookworm says ...

to samantha-

you didn't answer the question-- do you belive murder is up to each person? Can I murder you if i think it is okay? I don't know what is going on in the mind of a murder-- it doesn't matter.  If we don't know if the child is legaly "alive", why is she  not given the benifit of the doubt that every other american citizen enjoys?

if this is murder-- then there is no "I think" "you think" -- there is law, and above that, right and wrong.  So is this murder?  If we say "I don't know", -- why not the benifit of the doubt?

Actually I don't believe that abortion is murder is some cases. Everyone has their own opinion about abortion. Mine is that it's the woman's choice (pro-choice). I don't believe it's acceptable to use abortion as birth control, but people make mistakes. Sometimes abortion is essential to the mother's life. I personally wouldn't have an abortion, but that does not mean that that option may not be right for another woman. You have your opinion and I have mine. By the way, murder is illegal, however, abortion is legal.

Dear Collegegirl2012,

My heart is breaking for you right now.  I know how hard it must be.  I wish I knew what jobs were open in Fort Laurdale but I am not from there. You are not alone in this, even though it may feel that way with your ex acting like he is.  I know it may sound silly and dumb but I promise you its true because I've seen Him in my own life and in the lives of other girls just like us.  God loves you so much and you are so special to Him!!  He has promised to "never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5).  You are right about it being a sin to abort your precious baby but its ok to be scared and wonder how you are going to care for your baby.  Any guilt you feel about it or any of your fears, they can all be taken away by Jesus.  Yes, He tells us straight up that "we (me and you both) have all sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23) but "that while we were still sinners Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8).  He knows we are going to mess up but He loves us anyway and tells us if we admit we mess up and accept Him as our Savior from our messes and our way to Heaven, He will forgive us from everyting and He will help you with the mess you are in!!   "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son (Jesus) that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16).  He loves you so much!!  You are so preciuos to God...there's even a verse in the Bible that says "as a bridegroom rejoices over the Bride, so your God rejoices over you."  You are beautiful and so special to Him and when you accept Him as your savior, He picks you up and holds you in His arms just like our boyfriends would, only unlike guys, God is forever faithful, "He will never leave you nor forsake you."  You are right about knowing it is wrong to kill your baby, I promise you in keeping the baby you are doing the best thing ever!!  That is a life - just like you or me!!  A life that is wonderful to God too. 

I am praying for you and love you.

Dear Collegegirl,

My mom said there are agencies that will help you.  You can also call United Way, and they should have at least a partial listing of agencies.  Your Catholic Charities locally should offer some assistance.  There are also agencies that will help you with medical, housing, childcare classes, and ensure that you get your education.

My mom was sixteen when she got pregnant, and she was a "good girl."  She says when they say it only takes one time, they mean that.  But she kept the baby, my sister, and long story made short,  now has a total of four children, pretty much grown.  She says she won't say it was easy, but she's proud to be able to say she did it.  She did marry her boyfriend, but it didn't last, and he was a dead-beat dad and didn't help at all or contact my sister.  But my mom managed, finished high school in 6 months, and went to college part-time.  

http://www.covenanthousefl.org/

For Fort Lauderdale:

Children's Home Society                      763-6573

His Caring Place                                 429-9224

Pregnancy Help Center                        584-8164

Teen Parent Program                           786-7757

Teen Parent School Social Worker         786-7667

Hope Pregnancy Center (Oakland Park)   568-2616

Hope Pregnancy Center (Davie)            581-6991

CATHOLIC COMMUNITY SERVICES - BROWARD

 Address:

1300 S. Andrews Avenue

Ft. Lauderdale, FL33316

(954) 522-2513

Office Hours: 8:30 A.M. - 4:30 P.M. Monday-Friday (some evening hours - call)

Client Eligibility: Client eligibility varies from program to program.

Client Ages: All ages

Fees: Sliding scale

Services: Adoption, pregnancy services, maternity shelter (18 years and older), family/marital/individual counseling, AIDS ministry, adult day care, immediate services (financial assistance).

 

EMERGENCY PREGNANCY SERVICES/RESPECT LIFE

 

Addresses:

2907 N. Andrews Avenue

Wilton Manors, FL 33334

(954) 565-8506

 

6151 Washington Street

Hollywood, FL 33023

(954) 963-2229

 

101 W. Sample Road

Coral Springs, FL 33065

(954) 753-0770

 

Office Hours: Call for appointment

Client Eligibility: Low income, sigle mothers, teenagers

Client Ages: Unrestricted

Fees: None - Donations accepted

Services: Free pregnancy testing and counseling. Maternity clothes, infant supplies, emergency formula and diapers, miscellaneous baby supplies for low-income persons, community referrals.

 

WOMAN'S PREGNANCY CENTER

Address:

1400 E. Oakland Park Boulevard, Suite 201

Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33334

(954) 568-2616

 

Office Hours: 9:00 A.M. - 7:30 P.M. Monday & Tuesday

9:00 A.M. - 5:00 P.M. Wednesday & Thursday

9:00 A.M. - 2:00 P.M. Friday

10:00 A.M. - 1:00 P.M. Saturday (by appointment only)

Client Eligibility: Unrestricted

Client Ages: Unrestricted

Fees: None

Services: Pregnancy testing; literature and videos on related issues; birth classes; post-abortion support groups; couseling/emotional support; maternity and baby clothes/supplies; referrals to related organizations.

Dear collegegirl2012,

i am in the same situation now n i chose to keep my baby u jus need some positive ppl around u n that can make the experience better. it is going to be hard i admit but when u feel the baby moving around in a couple of months u will realize that u made the right choice. n as far as the daddy forget him its alot of single mothers raising their kids on their own better than he could u kno so dont worry bout him. and jus kill him with kindness that the worst punishment u can give somebody that took so much of your energy stop stressin n LIVE LIFE FOR U N YOUR BABY! LOVE IT TENDERLY N MOTHERLY AND NEVA MAKE THE BABY FEEL LIKE U REGRET HAVIN IT. and get all ur stuff together get on wic medicad believe me its government money but somebody gotta spend it y not u lol 

God Bless You n whatever you choose to do 

Collegegirl;

You have received good advice. If you had to ask the question, in your heart you already know the answer. In Fort Lauderdale, 4kids is an organization the deals with adoption.

Calvary Chapel of  Fort Lauderdale has a program for pregnant teenagers...they will help with shelter, medical and placement for you & your baby.

Also, the other information provided for you by other posts are great.

God bless you and may He guide you. God has a plan for you and your baby. Just get the help that is out there for you.

As a matter of fact, I am looking for a baby...I am unable to concieve...2 miscarriages. I would more than welcome your baby into my home with open arms. My husband and I have been trying for over 10 yrs. This could be the answer to my prayers!