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My cousins bestfriend just died. :( ONLY 15 YEARS OLD. Help!!!
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Posted about 1 month ago My cousins bestfriend just died. She had severe asthma and had a severe allergic reaction to cat dander. Shortly after the reaction she went into cardiac arrest! :( ONLY 15 YEARS OLD! Anyone have any pointers on how to help my cousin out? I have no clue how she feels. They have been bestfriends for 14 years and shes taking it hard.
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| Posted about 1 month ago awww thats really sad... well i think the best thing u can do for ur cousin is to just be by her side |
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| Posted about 1 month ago I'm so sorry to hear something like that, its always so hard to hear. I know how it feels to lose people so close to you. the best you can do is talk to your cousin about it, talk of all the great memories you have of this friend, & always be caring & understanding of your cousin. I hope that soon things will get better. |
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| Posted about 1 month ago It is great that your cousin has you. You are very caring. There is no way for you or you cousin to make sense out of her friend's death, it is sad and tragic. Listening to your cousin work through her grief, and allowing her to work through it at her own pace wil help. Maybe you could help your cousin put together a photo album of the two of them. Or you could scan pictures in and create an online photo album or burn a disk. You could laugh with her over the crazy pictures and cry with her when the emotions get overwhelming. Working on a project may help her express the deep sorrow she is feeling. Maybe your cousin likes poetry and she could write a poem about her best friend, or a painting or sketch and give it to her parents. Another thing is to suggest that she ask her friend's parents if she could assist in any way with the funeral prepartion. Possibly helping with the picture boards, suggesting a special flower to be included in the bouquet, organizing other friends/classmates in some type of memorial gesture. Something you and her can do is take your knowledge and share it with your friends. I bet you have lots of friends with asthma, I do. Often my friends blow it off and don't manage their disease as well as they could. Your experience with your cousin and her friend can be that tyestimonial to help other young people with asthma to take it seriously.Taking you cousin's grief and assisting her to put that enery into doing something may make her feel less helpless in this terrible situation. I will pray for your you, your cousin, and her friend's family. Meg |
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| Posted about 1 month ago Amber, I'm very sorry to hear such sad news about your cousins friend. It is sad she was only 15 and you are all grieving. It will take time to heal and I believe what Meghan wrote is very good advice. She has made some wonderful suggestions for you and your cousin to get through this. Don't be afraid to show your feelings, be there when your cousin needs you and think of the good times. Please stay by your cousins side, and you will both feel better. This is a tragic accident that maybe could have been avoided, there was something wrong. Maybe her best friends family are looking into how and why this happened. Someday you might have better answers but for now, just be the caring person you are and soon you will feel less pain. I will be thinking of all of you in my prayers. |
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| Posted 28 days ago Hi Amber, I hope you and your cousin are doing much better today. Just want you to know you are in my thoughts and hope you will be back on the site soon! Take care for now :) |
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| Posted 28 days ago man, that's deep... im sorry for your loss and your cousin's. Just try to do stuff with your cousin that her best friend would have done without looking like you're trying to take her place. im sure your cousin is really gonna need your support for however long it takes her to heal from this. She can do this, just be there to help. |
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| Posted 25 days ago I'm so sorry. I know the words can't do anything to help relieve the pain. Just October 17th my best friend died. He was my uncle. We were the closest of all our relatives. He was the closest thing I've ever had to a dad. It's so hard to not be able to call him at the end of the day and tell him about the joke my friend told me at lunch or any of that type stuff. It's hard but none of the words can bring him back. I can't remember the last time I went this long without even talking to him. His memorial service was just yesterday. He's only been gone for a week and 2 days...I just don't know how to go on sometimes, but I know if I don't go on I'll never survive. |
