Holidays and Headaches
Though you’re excited to see everyone and you’ve missed them terribly, relatives tend to make this time a little more stressful than it needs to be.
October 28, 2014
By this time in the semester, you have gotten used to being a (somewhat) responsible adult. Your independence away from home has toughened you up and made you sharper. From doing your own laundry to setting up your own appointments (without crying, of course), you are embracing your freedom and individuality.
But there comes a time when you start to dream of the smell of your mom’s homemade cookies. You miss the comfort of snuggling in your bed with your pets. You wish to see your friends from home and catch up on all the missed time.
And, for some odd reason, you want to hear the same dull dad joke from you old man because, though you’ve heard it a thousand times, hearing it once more confirms that life hasn’t changed all that much.
The holidays are approaching towards us quickly and that means visiting family and friends back at home. Though you’re excited to see everyone and you’ve missed them terribly, relatives tend to make this time a little more stressful than it needs to be. Constant house visits, the never ending river of questions, the fighting between your siblings, and nagging from the parents make this holiday seem more like a battlefield.
We’ve all been there and we know how it feels. You love them to death but they are going to be the death of you before you even have a chance to step back on campus after break.
So, how do you fix the love-hate relationships dealing with family and the holidays? All you have to do is remember these three important things:
They’re Your Family
Yes, they will be embarrassing and give you headaches. Yes, they will make you wonder how messed up your gene pool really is. No, they will never stop loving you and that’s because they’re your family. From drunken uncles to older sisters to annoying cousins, these people know you and love you more than anyone else will. And, truth is, you love them, too.
So, listen to that story your aunt has told a thousand times. Stop fighting with your little sister about who gets to use the shower first. Sit and answer all these awkward questions your mother keeps drilling at you (she just really misses you a lot). Let them you know that you care about them, no matter how crazy they are.
Enjoy It While You Still Can
Harsh as it may seem, you may never get these chances again. The fun you have with your family right now can become a thing of the past. Friends grow apart and move on with their lives. You begin to have more responsibilities and getting back home seems harder each year. Relatives are getting older and, one day, you will wish that you had spent more time with them.
You need to cherish these little moments in life like they are all you have. Sure, it seems like hell now and you are restraining yourself from pulling your hair out. But, believe me when I say, you will look back at these moments years from now and be glad you had them when you did.
It’ll All Be Over Soon
Even looking at the bright side of holidays with the holidays with relatives, you’re still feeling a little like the Grinch. But, who can actually blame you? You’ve sat here and watched the same Charlie Brown Christmas special for the last decade. You hate it when the family asks why you aren’t dating anyone yet. And, if you have to swallow your Aunt Jenna’s famous pig’s feet casserole one more time, you’re going to be sick.
Stop being such a drama queen. You only have a few days’ worth of this. Once this is all over, you can go back to your dorm and be as free as you were before. So, just take a deep breath and enjoy the ride.
It’ll be over sooner than you think. And then you’ll actually miss it.
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