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How to Talk to Your Teen About Money

How to Talk to Your Teen About Money

By Hon. John C. Ninfo

Did you know that your children’s credit scores may be more important to their future than their academic transcripts? Or that 68 percent of high school and college students say they have never had a meaningful conversation with their parents about personal finances?

What’s your reaction to an Indiana University administrator candidly admitting that they lose more students to credit cards than to academic failure? Or a Rochester Institute of Technology professor estimating that as many as 10 percent of college students will drop out of college because of credit problems?

The Problem

On a recent flight to the West Coast, I sat next to a woman on her way to see her son to discuss his finances. She was still unsure whether she and her husband should bail him out of his credit card debt and put him on a repayment plan, or let him “learn the hard way” by dropping out of college to get his finances under control and then finish his education.

Believe me, this is a conversation that you don’t want to have with your child.

Most college students are easy prey for the creative credit card offers and free gifts that they will be bombarded with from the moment they walk onto campus.

The problem is that too many young people are financially illiterate. They are hungry consumers getting their first tastes of financial independence and can think of a million reasons to do and buy things they can’t afford. Young people are too quick to be influenced by the peer pressure of other students who are using credit cards and taking advantage of these offers.

Greg was a 19-year-old sophomore at a prestigious university. In a little more than a year, he had lost more than $7,500 playing online poker.

A class president and the son of a minister, he became so desperate over his gambling debts, financed with credit cards, that he robbed a bank.

Greg was one of approximately 1.6 million college students who gambled online last year. Will your child accept a credit card solicitation when they go to college so that they can gamble online?

Unfortunately, it is the naive use of easy-to-obtain credit cards and its impact on their credit reports that has resulted in so many college graduates being turned down for jobs, car loans, apartments, graduate student loans—and even being forced to file for bankruptcy.

In a world where all of this is happening, it’s time to get serious about making sure your future college student learns some of the basic lessons, tactics and techniques of personal finance.

Start With the Basics

Don’t assume that your teen’s school has taught her anything about personal finance. Open a checking and savings account with her now, and make sure the bank has a branch near her college.

Teach her to put a portion of her income (part-time jobs, allowance or gifts) into the savings account for an emergency fund (say $500), and to save for some of the things she may want for herself (an iPod or tickets to a concert).

Too many Americans have forgotten about the need for savings and the value of delayed gratification. Teach your child both of these lessons and why they are important.

Teach her to fill out the check register when she writes a check, and show her how to balance the account. Discuss the difference between needs, wants and wishes.


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    NatashaG229

    3 months ago

    Thought this was a good article, and timely too....

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    WhitneyD130

    3 months ago

    I thought about printing this off, then just decided to send it to you. And I've been meaning to ask if any credit card companies get through in your mail at school?

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    WhitneyW308

    4 months ago

    My daughter is to be a freshman in college and is working part time this summer. She has her own checking account and debit card. I also have set her up with a credit card with rules. Gas only...nothing else and I check the bill to see that she sticks to the rules. If she violates the rule she loses the card. Makes her think about what she spends on gas vs. everything else and gives her a credit history too.

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    AshleighW134

    4 months ago

    My daughter will be a senior in high school and has had her own debit account for about a year. This has been a good start as she sees how quickly money can be used, that she must write down all debits (forgetting can cause pain) and it is in print that she can see as we sit down and balance her account each month! I appreciate the idea of a credit card when she is a senior with a very low credit balance to both begin developing a credit history, but more importantly, that the card represents borrowing from the future. She can see that it can be a millstone around her neck and a robber of the present if she doesn't use it responsibly, or as a tool to use money as part of a plan (key word) that must be repaid if borrowed.
    In one of the comments below, a writer suggested resources about knowing why a person spends as they do. I think this is brilliant--it has taken me years to learn this about myself and how wonderful for her to at least have a clue before stepping into the experience.
    Thanks for the article and all of the really good comments below.
    Leigh

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    JonathanL795

    4 months ago

    I put my kids on my credit card account without telling them when they were in around 9th grade. My good credit history transferred to them, so when they were in need of loans for school and car leasing during their college years they had a favorable rating. I don't think there is a reason to charge without paying as you indicated in the article as I never had any balance unpaid.
    Thanks
    Jack

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    GregoryF99

    4 months ago

    An easy read to send your student even when they are already following these principles. It supports their financial wisdom.

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    NullN442218

    4 months ago

    I highly recomend reading Deep Economy: Economics as if the World Mattered by Bill McKibben . Among other insights McKibben is reflective about something he calls "hyperindividuality" with each of us following the myth of More and Better. He presents a great case that the resulting high consumption lifestyle has masked the true costs of how we live.

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    AllisonS479

    4 months ago

    One important thing to know is our child's (and our own) propensity for self-control over challenging money habits and attitudes. Your readers should know about Money Habitudes® cards, (three versions: seasoned-adults, young-adults and teens), which helps them to understand more about why they spend, earn, save, invest, give away money, and debt themselves. Knowing our habits and attitudes is the first -- and often the most important -- step in shifting the way we act out and feel about handling our money. http://www.MoneyHabitudes.com (and no, I'm not the developer or owner -- just a very dedicated user of the cards.)

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    CameronH25

    4 months ago

    The goal of every parent should be to learn from their own past when credit talks were rare and credit was ample, and make certain your child has minimum basic debt (and college is not one of them) as possible out of college and thereafter.

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    BreeB42

    4 months ago

    This is good information. I have talked to my daughter, future freshman in college, about using her new debit card. I wasn't sure of what to do about a credit card yet. Waiting til her senior year is good advice. Instant gratification is a huge problem in our society. Being debt free should be our goal and I want to teach my daughter that early on. Thanks for the advice. Stefanie, TX